You ask a common, but very good question:
"Why do bad things happen to good people?"
Many people have wondered this, one of the first a "good" man in the Bible named Job. Listen to his lament:
"What's the point of life when it doesn't make sense, when God blocks all the roads to meaning? ... And so I'm not keeping one bit of this quiet, I'm laying it all out on the table; my complaining to high heaven is bitter, but honest. ... Believe me, I'm blameless. I don't understand what's going on. I hate my life!" - (Job 3:25, 7:11, and 9:21 - The Message)
You're right - it's not really fair, is it? I can tell by your question that you've been hurt by someone or something and it seemed unjust to you, like you can't figure out why you (or someone you love) had to go through that. Let me say this: God cares. And I don't say that as some trite, band-aid solution. I really mean it. Just like God cared for Job who suffered loss and disease and darkness; cared for Stephen who was stoned for proclaiming Christ; and cares for me when my life is unfair too, God does care about your sorrow. And He has a plan to minister healing and restoration. Both in time, and in eternity. I realize it's hard to wait, but Justice will come. So, hold on and I'll hold on with you. We'll be holding onto Him together.
I don't really have an answer to your question that wraps nicely into a blog post. Honestly, if I did, it would be a hoax. But - I will say this. Bad things happen to good and bad people because we live in an imperfect, sin-filled (but also glory-filled) world, where for now the enemy, Satan, has been allowed a certain measure of influence over humans. God gave people a choice in Eden (the same choice we have today), and we've all chosen the wrong tree. We've sided with evil, all of us, and so none of us are truly good. Which was one of my points last week.
The hope I can offer is that one day all of this injustice will be righted. Our King is coming back for us (dead or alive) and He will bring us to a place where bad things don't happen to ANYONE who has chosen Him. So, Dear Soul - if you haven't already - I implore you to choose Jesus Christ as your God, Forgiver, and Leader. He is the Just One, the Eternal One, the Ancient of Days who will bring justice and fairness to us all, but only by means of His grace and His Cross.
I can't promise you roses here on earth, and even if you got them, you'd get the thorns too. Pain happens and life is tough. Once again I declare - Only God is Good.
I hope that helps, Dear Heart. Keep asking the tough questions - they are one of the best ways to draw you to His heart, as long as you keep your hands open.
I received so many questions last week, and answering them all in here would make this post far too long. Since I do want to honor your courage to ask, however, I will be posting my answers to the rest of your questions as replies to your comments. You can find the link back to that post here. [Give me a few minutes to type them all, my Lovelies!]
And now, I'd like to extend my Saturday invitation to you, Sweet Reader. Have you ever wanted to ask a question about life, God, the Bible, relationships, people, church, or anything? (That last one is scary, but that's why I need the Holy Spirit to write through me.) Go ahead and ask me! I'll do some research and write back to you next week here in the nest. My answers come from the Bible, revelation from God (as He generously gives - see James 1), and personal experience. And then, when it comes up in your conversations with others, you can always say, "Well, a little bird once told me ..." *wink*
Go ahead, courageous soul - type your question right down there in the comments box and keep it anonymous. I think it's also fun to sign it with a clever salutation, like "Drowning In Sorrow" or "Wishing Life Was Easy" or "Wondering What You Think"
I can't wait to read your questions!
In His Hand,